A visit to dear old friends in their new house. We did not see eachother since 2009. When I was living in The Netherlands, we saw each other daily, had lots of fun and shared many important moments, good and bad, I kind of never felt alone which is priceless when you move abroad and start all over again.
I miss that time and I miss very much the kind of friendship when you see each other daily, study together, shop together, cook and eat together, curl on the sofa in front of a good movie together, talk about everything and dream together but never get tired of it.
I was lucky to have that a few times in my life. I think I was spoiled, because it did not come back easily just with anyone. What about you?
Remember my post about the red string theory? I am happy to say some of my red strings did shorten again so that I could see my dear friends again.
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A great thing with good friends is indeed that you can reconnect with them no matter when and it will feel just right. It's rare (I think) and it's something I try to cherish as often as possible :)
ReplyDeleteyes, when you can reconnect after a long time as no day passed it's kind of priceless :-)))
DeleteI remembered I wanted to comment on this post badly and of course never did! When I came to London, two of my closest friend were here and your words about the importance of good people nearby when you start all over really resonated with me. My friends, especially one of them, made the bad times shorter than they felt when I was alone, we didn't spend every minute together but every meeting was special. Familiarity was important of course but the reassurance and fun were just a great way of proving ourselves that we could make it the way we wanted it to be. And of course we did:) Friends are precious. And the best:)
ReplyDeleteHi Marta, nice to find so many of your comments back (miss them you know :-)?
DeleteI see you know exaclty what I mean. Today I have strange feelings about friendship, I should maybe write a post about it but probably it's too personal. Let's say I am very nostalgic about some friends and the kind of relationship we developed, I don't know if it belongs to young age or if it relates to soecific people. Do you think time (in the sense of growing older and wiser) changes people and the way they see friendship? Meaning they change the way the connect with people?
I'm glad to comment back, too!:) I'm not sure, about friendship and time, you know. But, like many times before, your questions come right on time. Today my "old" close friend and I arranged to meet, after years of silence, for a day of talking and eating, and walking very soon. It will be a very good opportunity for me to see what time does to friendship. I strongly believe that it's often necessary to have some time away (I was in a similar situation before and we - my friend and I - both agreed that we needed to become more mature to appreciate each other). When I was younger, I used to search for something magical in friends, great understanding and all that. It usually left me very frustrated to discover that such things didn't exist:) Then again, I never made friends with people I didn't like and that hasn't changed (it sounds obvious but from what I observe around, it's not!). But with age, liking people is becoming easier and easier, sometimes I just like one characteristic of a person and that's enough whereas as a kid, I'd look for a full spectrum. I hope I make sense:) Having said that, I still cannot be friends with people who aren't generous and that lack of generosity shows even in the way they wish for their friends - that's my latest exception I'm afraid. It's a big subject, Stefania. I do hope you will write something about it on your blog.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for this reply Marta, I feel I share many of your views on it. It is really a big subject, I am not sure I want to write a post on it. Maybe we can continue our talk by mail though, or in front of a cul of coffee somewhere in London. It looks like we are going to be there in beginning of may. Will you be around at that time of the year?
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Great idea! I will be there as... I'm starting a course late April (I will email you details:). Hoooray!
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